Black girl attitude. Roll those eyes. Snap those fingers and most of all don't take crap from anyone (except your momma, of course). Many people might consider it a stereotype, but remember stereotypes are just a generalization. A stereotype is just an exaggerated element of the truth. My Allah, do Black girls have a host of issues. I'm just being real. We're just angry, angry at our given circumstances. I think many of us feel as though we were handed a short deck when it comes to life. Many people perceive Black women as being overly aggressive and intimidating. Is this always true? Certainly not! But, it really makes me wonder why we always have our defenses up. I work with a lot of other Black women and believe me, its a constant battle. My experiences at work has made me wonder why we act the way we do. Are we worried that people will walk all over us? Is it perhaps an indication that we view ourselves as inferior compared to other groups of women? Maybe we feel like we have to prove something. That something, I don't know. I think it traces back to being oppressed. Think about it. Let's say you have a young child. This child is told constantly "You're worthless", "You'll end up pregnant at 16 so what the point of school?", or "Look at that nappy mess on your head!". Eventually this child will begin to lash out and act out. This acting out covers up the deep feeling of worthlessness. People act out when they have nothing else to do. Defenses are always going to be up, even if at times the parent might have good intentions. Our experiences as children shape what type of adults we become.
The ironic part is that with all this attitude and our defenses up 24/7 we still allow our men to treat us like dirt. He'll sleep with you, get your pregnant, fool around with other women, but at the end of the day he doesnt have the decency to marry you (again not all!). Girl, put your defences up where they are needed! Shut his behind out! It all relates back to our poor self image and self esteem.
Peace, Love and ever-lasting happiness to all!
BMWomyn
You are right! It comes back to how we are raised, our poor self image and self-esteem, as well as bad experiences. I see some women that are totally calm and reasonable and happy until a man burns them and they become bitter, hateful, resentful, angry and put the wall up. Not blaming it all on men but thats a large portion of it. I dont understand why black women allow bad black men to play them left and right, up and down. We are stronger and smarter than that. If not men, its just the way they have been raised to respond and react. I know what you are talking about at work. It doesn't make sense how black woman treat each other sometimes! We have to do better!
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